Supporting a Grieving Friend

When a friend’s loved one dies, it can be a really sad and confusing time. It can be hard to know what to say or do. Here are some things you can do to support your friend and show them you care.

What to Say:

“Do you want to draw a picture of [loved one] together? We could draw all their favorite things.”

This is a fun way to remember the person and be creative together.

“I’m really sorry about what happened.”

This is simple and honest. It lets your friend know you’re thinking of them.

“I’m here for you if you want to talk about it, or if you just want to hang out.”

This gives them the choice to talk or just be with you.

“I don’t know exactly how you feel, but I’m here to listen.”

You don’t have to have all the answers. Just being there is important.

“Remember that time when [loved one] [insert funny or happy memory]? That always makes me smile.”

Sharing a happy memory can be a nice way to remember the person.

“I miss [loved one] too. Do you want to talk about them?”

This shows you’re thinking of them too and opens the door for conversation.

“[Loved one] always made me laugh when they did [share a specific memory]. What’s your favourite memory of them?”

This focuses on good times and encourages them to share their memories.

What to Do:

Spend time with your friend. Even if you’re just playing video games or watching a movie, being together can help.

Offer to help with little things. Maybe they need help with their homework or just someone to play with.

Listen. If they want to talk, just listen. Don’t interrupt or try to fix things. Just be there.

Keep being their friend. Grief takes a long time. Keep checking in on them, even weeks or months later.

Invite them over to play. Sometimes, a distraction is just what they need.

If you’re worried about your friend, talk to a grown-up you trust. They can help too.

Important Things to Remember:

Be patient. Your friend might be sad or quiet for a while. That’s okay.

Don’t pressure them to talk. Let them share when they’re ready.

It’s okay if you feel sad too. It’s okay to talk to a grown-up about how you’re feeling.

Helping a grieving friend is about being a good friend. It’s about showing you care and being there for them, even when it’s hard. ❤️