Supporting kids through a traumatic loss

When children experience a sudden or traumatic loss, the grief they feel can be especially intense, leaving them with big questions, worries, and fears.

Here are five ways we can help support them ⤵️

Offer Honest, Age-Appropriate Explanations
Answer their questions honestly but in ways that match their age and understanding. Reassure them that it’s okay to feel confused or scared and that they’re not alone in their emotions.

Recognize Triggers and Prepare for Reactions
Sudden reminders or anniversaries of the loss can trigger strong reactions. Be sensitive to events or topics that may evoke memories, and prepare them for upcoming anniversaries or gatherings where emotions might be high.

Reassure Safety and Security
Traumatic losses often shake a child’s sense of security. Remind them they are safe, and provide reassurance about their surroundings and routines. Physical comfort, like hugs or being nearby, can also be very soothing.

Encourage Routine and Stability
After a traumatic loss, familiar routines provide comfort and stability. Regular activities, meals, and bedtimes can help children feel secure and give them a sense of normalcy.

Offer a Sense of Control
In the face of trauma, kids may feel powerless. Giving them small choices—like picking what to eat, what activities to do, or even what memory they’d like to share about their loved one—can help them regain a sense of control.